Women’s Day... oh puh-lease!!

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Go on, then! Wish us a Very Happy Women’s Day! Get us those vibrant flowers. Get us that rich luscious cake. Get us that exotic gift that we were desperately waiting for throughout our lives. Celebrate our womanhood! In short, shower us with all the love that you felt for us, your entire life.... on this one day. 

Just remember this... we are JUDGING you while you’re doing this. I know, I know... you might think that we are all being overly feminists and the like. Trust me... we are only being us. No, YOU don’t get to hand US out a day. WE get to choose our own days, rather. We might be perky on a Monday because we had an overdose of children over the weekend. We might be be chirpy on a Wednesday because there is a Ladies Only Bollywood Night at our favourite club... just to spend time with our girlfriends. We may be feeling low on a Friday, of all days, because PMS, you see! So yes, we are capable enough to decide our days based on weather, waxing schedules, child coming second in the lemon-and-spoon race, domestic help showing up on time for the third consecutive day, finding the perfect fuchsia t-shirt for our husband, or our hair. Leave this heavy lifting to us!

Coming to the most over-rated phenomenon of making us feel like celebrities. The Discount Trap! We do love the various bargains being offered all over the place. Come on, men or women, young or old, we all love the offers and freebies. Not to play a spoilt-sport... I just don’t like them today. Don’t hand it out to us like you’re doing a favour on us. Hand it out like we deserve it.... throughout the year.

If you truly cherish the women in your life, may it be your mother, wife, daughter, sister, girlfriend, friend.... here’s a list to guide you through your ignorance, to show her how you feel about her:
  1. Skip the flowers. They will wilt. Skip the cake. Calories. Skip the fancy dinner. Too much work for her to get dressed. Fine, if she is fine. Gift... should be ok!
  2. Get her bed tea... at least once in a while. You won’t be able to forget her radiant smile, ever.
  3. Offer to babysit the kids while she is off relaxing at a spa with her friends. Her rejuvenation will bring back the sanctity to the home.
  4. Don’t lecture her on fitness and how much weight she has put on after her delivery. Trust us, it is not a choice that we had. Rather, get off that couch yourself and inspire her to come along.
  5. She doesn’t need a sermon on how her cupboards are overflowing with stuff and that she doesn’t need to shop, anymore. Trust me... she knows that already. You need to know, and accept, that she still needs it. Probably, you can offer to carry half of her shopping bags.
  6. Nothing will cheer her up more than that hot mug of coffee after a long day, with her feet literally up and the TV remote in her hand. Don’t judge her viewing choices. She doesn’t judge yours.
  7. Offer her a chair when she is pacing up and down the room, talking her heart out, on the phone, to her mom or friends. Trust us... it is for your own good.
  8. Understand and start believing, in your heart of hearts, that men and women can never be equals. Women are far more superior. You have been raised by one and your children are being raised by another. Can you be more blessed?!
  9. Respect her if she is single. Respect her if she is divorced. Respect her if she is married. Respect her for the choices that she has made and how she has stood by them.
  10. Respect her if she is a housewife. Respect her if she is working. Respect her for the compromises that she has been making.
  11. Respect her. Irrespective.

I am hoping that you have got the drift of What Women Really Want. Please feel free to customise the list for the women in your life. Share it with us so that others get inspired. Show her that you care. And not just today. The same way that she does. In her actions. 

A note for my girls out there: Nobody knows us better than us. Nobody can lift us better than us. Nobody can celebrate us better than us. Be the one that fixes others’ crowns, while managing her own cape.

The true victory of our appreciation for Women will be when the world doesn’t feel the need for celebrating a Day for the Women.

Cheers to strong women.
May we know them.
May we be them.
May we raise them.


Hail, Womaniya! 

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